tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3659263493425330078.post4100424439655921856..comments2024-03-25T10:12:58.132-04:00Comments on Kestril's Rhythms and Groove: Negative Feedback and the Nerd GirlRommyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11810721515248103148noreply@blogger.comBlogger31125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3659263493425330078.post-78369247362433945142020-06-18T07:20:50.335-04:002020-06-18T07:20:50.335-04:00Thanks Jenna!Thanks Jenna!Rommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18343895193475984183noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3659263493425330078.post-4415766270437851092020-06-17T21:13:21.489-04:002020-06-17T21:13:21.489-04:00I like this post, Rommy. That clip you linked to r...I like this post, Rommy. That clip you linked to reminds me of me, when I was in school! Jennahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09054732378669659210noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3659263493425330078.post-48257103828016987792019-09-03T07:25:34.266-04:002019-09-03T07:25:34.266-04:00Thanks Stacey!Thanks Stacey!Rommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11810721515248103148noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3659263493425330078.post-32832120790576787162019-09-02T20:15:54.907-04:002019-09-02T20:15:54.907-04:00I agree with Debra!!! Big Hugs Rommy! I agree with Debra!!! Big Hugs Rommy! Magic Love Crowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14133368208464734546noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3659263493425330078.post-38564875573847524512019-08-20T07:06:50.134-04:002019-08-20T07:06:50.134-04:00Behold the awesome power of squads! *cue theme mus...Behold the awesome power of squads! *cue theme music* I'm glad you have a good crew on your side too, Rue. :) Rommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11810721515248103148noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3659263493425330078.post-43553986317336869392019-08-18T11:21:13.425-04:002019-08-18T11:21:13.425-04:00I am firmly behind Spanish cussing. But I’m also f...I am firmly behind Spanish cussing. But I’m also fortunate enough to have a squad too. I’m glad you’ve got a crew that always has your back!Ruehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09521209734809361226noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3659263493425330078.post-58177297847180852232019-08-18T08:07:18.349-04:002019-08-18T08:07:18.349-04:00LOL, ah, the (sometimes!) saving grace of writing!...LOL, ah, the (sometimes!) saving grace of writing! We always have that chance to make things clearer, shape the flow of our words more carefully, and create an environment that is conducive to communication instead of the verbal equivalent of Thunderdome. 'Tis a pity that even the best of us can forget in the heat of the moment. I know I have. 😆 LOL, as a Taurus, I am fairly chill until I absolutely AM NOT. But from my on-line communications with you Rosemary, I've always seen you as very professional and helpful, for what it's worth.<br /><br />Rommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11810721515248103148noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3659263493425330078.post-69015295809662422772019-08-18T07:55:57.663-04:002019-08-18T07:55:57.663-04:00Pleasing everyone is a fool's game. LOL, OK we...Pleasing everyone is a fool's game. LOL, OK well sometimes I might be foolish, but not *that* foolish.Rommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11810721515248103148noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3659263493425330078.post-36590252683106876202019-08-17T19:34:48.870-04:002019-08-17T19:34:48.870-04:00PS As for being on the receiving end, I love the i...PS As for being on the receiving end, I love the idea of Spanish cussing, bwahaha. (Luckily for monolingual me, English cussing works all right too.) Good to have friends one can vent to.Rosemary Nissen-Wadehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05913841031559499568noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3659263493425330078.post-35587497304624227232019-08-17T19:31:24.451-04:002019-08-17T19:31:24.451-04:00Ha, mention of ‘peevish scorpion’, and of percepti...Ha, mention of ‘peevish scorpion’, and of perceptiveness and acid tongue in same person, reminds me that, as an astrological Scorpion I must be careful when being on the giving end of negative criticism. I don’t always realise what a sting my words may carry. To me I may just be expressing myself clearly, whereas the recipient can be left reeling. People tell me I am ‘snappy’, ‘moody’, ‘blunt as shit’, when I had no notion of being any of those things. In writing, one has more opportunity to think twice and do some re-wording; it is in person that I need to watch it. Rosemary Nissen-Wadehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05913841031559499568noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3659263493425330078.post-23698709143414600932019-08-17T13:12:56.333-04:002019-08-17T13:12:56.333-04:00A cool calm head will always precede a calm respon...A cool calm head will always precede a calm response. We can’t please everyone but I’m glad you please yourself first!Vivian Zemshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09588008375525403964noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3659263493425330078.post-58890030940266498402019-08-17T08:56:06.488-04:002019-08-17T08:56:06.488-04:00I think it's pretty awesome that you decided t...I think it's pretty awesome that you decided to break the cycle when you were in a position to do so. :)<br /><br />LOL, laughter is one of my most often used therapuetic tools.Rommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18343895193475984183noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3659263493425330078.post-12706899502553135762019-08-17T08:49:25.377-04:002019-08-17T08:49:25.377-04:00Thanks Sumana. I'm definitely a lucky person.Thanks Sumana. I'm definitely a lucky person.Rommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18343895193475984183noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3659263493425330078.post-46265766737296534532019-08-17T08:35:32.985-04:002019-08-17T08:35:32.985-04:00Husbands who listen are a glorious thing too. My h...Husbands who listen are a glorious thing too. My husband is definitely part of my squad. Both the Avengers (Marvel comics - group) and the Avengers (BBC TV show- dynamic duo) get the job done. :) <br />Rommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18343895193475984183noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3659263493425330078.post-2985367266829861912019-08-17T08:01:09.446-04:002019-08-17T08:01:09.446-04:00It really is, especially if you're someone (li...It really is, especially if you're someone (like me) who for a very long time relied on external validation to build themselves up. External negativity hits pretty hard then. Of course, the best way to deal is to find a way to validate from within - which isn't easy! But it does help troll-proof the castle of one's sanity. :D Rommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18343895193475984183noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3659263493425330078.post-49044962992032188482019-08-17T07:52:16.251-04:002019-08-17T07:52:16.251-04:00It could be the smartest, most insightful scorpion...It could be the smartest, most insightful scorpion, with the most valid of points. But what lies behind their actions--a desire to genuinely see people push their talent to the next level or show off the pointiness of their stinger? <br /><br />I'll honor the intent behind the former, but the latter gets an eye-roll from me.Rommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18343895193475984183noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3659263493425330078.post-77831707212826340872019-08-17T07:41:52.930-04:002019-08-17T07:41:52.930-04:00Bwahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha! Yeah, me ...Bwahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha! Yeah, me too. I've actually typed out stuff, took a look at what I wrote, been all, "yeah, life is too short and I could be drinking tea now instead", and deleted it to deal with at a later time (like when I'm less angry or when the apocalypse comes).<br /><br />I am super grateful for my squad. They make me a better person.Rommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18343895193475984183noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3659263493425330078.post-11720805118731482572019-08-17T03:52:58.648-04:002019-08-17T03:52:58.648-04:00Nerd girls are wonderful, Rommy. Although I’m no l...Nerd girls are wonderful, Rommy. Although I’m no longer a girl by any stretch of the imagination, I am one too. But in the British education system, that did not exempt me from negative feedback – it’s only fairly recently that teachers started to soften the blow – I was one of them. Negative criticism is painful, but it doesn’t have to be like that. Some critics are just plain spiteful, and that’s unnecessary. <br />I like your methods of dealing with negative criticism – the deep breath, sharing it with someone, and having a good laugh are all important. <br />Kim M. Russellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16668459794787447606noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3659263493425330078.post-35637734096110226462019-08-17T00:58:01.470-04:002019-08-17T00:58:01.470-04:00You are blessed to have that inner circle of frien...You are blessed to have that inner circle of friends to turn to when needed. Recovering process becomes a little bit easier after a nasty blow. Love how you've explored the topic.Sumana Royhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17333363799083094084noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3659263493425330078.post-14838790960666393772019-08-16T18:58:08.503-04:002019-08-16T18:58:08.503-04:00Great to have a squad. I wish I had one. My poor h...Great to have a squad. I wish I had one. My poor husband must listen to my various outbursts when criticism comes. For the most part I don't let it get to me. I can change if necessary, apologize if necessary, but I don't let plain old ugly talk sink in.Susie Clevengerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09239990133754328967noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3659263493425330078.post-30922527139959946502019-08-16T18:21:23.306-04:002019-08-16T18:21:23.306-04:00So good that you have a squad who allows venting. ...So good that you have a squad who allows venting. I think recovery from negative criticism is a process. Hopefully, at the end we see the truth in the criticism or discard it. Myrna R.https://www.blogger.com/profile/15088915165678737118noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3659263493425330078.post-67739651531124218232019-08-16T15:07:43.186-04:002019-08-16T15:07:43.186-04:00Venting to those nearby is a wonderful antidote, w...Venting to those nearby is a wonderful antidote, which i also employ. Love the line about the scorpian, lol.Sherry Blue Skyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10769154286598233146noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3659263493425330078.post-8464373801216399772019-08-16T14:04:43.602-04:002019-08-16T14:04:43.602-04:00It's always good to have an understanding frie...It's always good to have an understanding friend on speed-dial for language therapy sessions! LOLRommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11810721515248103148noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3659263493425330078.post-66060587033862836402019-08-16T12:49:55.242-04:002019-08-16T12:49:55.242-04:00Oh absolutely! Even if the criticism was meant as ...Oh absolutely! Even if the criticism was meant as "helpful", there is an excellent chance I (or anyone else) will blow it off completely if it's delivered with all the charm of a peevish scorpion, whether there was any truth to it or not.Rommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11810721515248103148noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3659263493425330078.post-90969757377828803992019-08-16T12:47:35.817-04:002019-08-16T12:47:35.817-04:00Lol! Sometimes what I'm thinking and what I&#...Lol! Sometimes what I'm thinking and what I'm typing are radically different. But I try never to respond to anything in anger. And having a squad you can count on... priceless! Lorihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12582954414536409107noreply@blogger.com