Keeping it Real Curly

For the longest time, I was the only one in my family with thick, curly locks. Then I had my Darling Eldest. We didn’t know how much his hair was like mine at first. He got a lot of regular haircut throughout his youth. But when he went away to college and haircuts weren’t as high of a priority as say anime club, we all finally got a look at what his mane would do when left to its own devices.


He had been home for a bit because of the pandemic before he finally approached me. He likes keeping his hair long but had been resisting the idea that maintenance was needed. Could I help?

Well during the pandemic I’ve been hard-core upgrading my curl game (it was a reliable bit of self-care that always made me feel better). I was delighted to share techniques I learned, product suggestions, while being sure to let him know the ball was in his court as to how he chooses to deal with it. I have to say, his satin lined hat is cooler than my cheesy sleeping bonnet, but both of them protect our curls.

There was one morning when we were wearing our respective caps when my husband made the observation that not only do we look alike, we both act in very similar ways when we get angry or frustrated. He looked at me in horror and said, “I think I’m turning into you.” I told him not to worry unless he suddenly got interested in planners and picking out cute stickers to go in it.

Of course considering we both just got excited over recognizing a familiar voice actor in an anime series, I’ll be sure add an extra pack of cool-looking, anime-inspired stickers to my next stationary order. Just in case.


Song Choice: Hair from the musical of the same name.

This post was created for Poets and Storytellers United's Weekly Scribblings Prompt: What You Resist, You Become.

47 comments:

  1. Oh, how I loved it when we were surrounded by long-haired young men! (Mind you, I was quite a lot younger myself then, too.) It's dreadfully unfair, but men can grow theirs thicker and stronger and longer than ours. And I love the musical Hair; after all, I was around when it first hit the stage. You gotta admit, long hair is a lovely and harmless way to rebel. I hope your Darling Eldest doesn't become so horrified that he rebels by cutting his short after all!

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    1. LOL, it doesn't really count as much of a rebellion in this household. My kids would have to do something like support the previous president or start dating someone closely related to his administration for that.

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    2. Ha ha, when my sons were in their mid-teens, they went through a stage of neat hair and beige sweaters. I said to their father, 'We didn't leave them any other way to rebel.' (Brother-in-law was hitting the roof at a son who came home with shaved head and an earring, in an era when that was a considered outrageous. I said wistfully to my boys' father, 'I wish our kids would do something interesting like that.')

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  2. I miss all the long-haired men. I only ever had long-haired boyfriends. My husband had very long hair when he was younger but started to go bald in his twenties. I enjoyed your story of hair during the pandemic, Rommy, and the realisation that men and women can turn into each other too.

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    1. It's almost eerie when we go on rants, especially political rants. :D

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  3. Curiously I have never been obsessed with my hair. So regular cuts and going grey gradually has clearly pleased it as keeps growing and not falling out!

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  4. What is this "haircut" thingy, of which you speak? I believe that I may have undergone one of those procedures, once, decades ago, but, uh....

    Nice work, R.

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    1. I am so looking forward to a trim when this pandemic thing is done. LOL, I have no idea how long will be long enough for Darling Eldest.

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  5. Ah... when your child becomes you! I see elements of that in my own children. I'm sure they've both got my sense of humour but I love all thee ways in which they are very different from me too. It's the idea that he has realized how much he is like you that is especially lovely.

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    1. It's become something of a family joke, especially during the pandemic. Most kids when they go away to college find out how different they are from their folks. LOL, but I know he's a pretty independent minded young man and has no problem in the slightest in being vocal when he disagrees with me.

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  6. I think it must be rare a son and mother would share hair-care secrets! How special. I found the political references amusing!

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    1. He's the only one in my family at all with hair anywhere like mine. Darling Youngest has a bit of a wave to their hair, but it's clearly their father they take after there.

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  7. I hope your beloved husband has been taking picture of this moments. Some things--pictures of almost matching satin lined sleeping bonnets, for instance--should be kept for always. I can't stop smiling at the mental image!

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    1. LOL, we really should get a side by side picture of that!

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  8. How absolutely delightful...your son is quite handsome with that wonderful head of hair. Please tell him that "man buns" are all the rage out here in Bend Oregon. I for one love, love them and never fail to complement the wearer.

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    1. One of these days when travel is possible again I'm sure he'd love to head out that way.

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  9. How lovely! Always nice to see men with long hair!

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    1. It does look nice on him long. We're all so used to it now, it'd be weird to see him with short hair.

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  10. I think the long hair on boys and men is an eye catcher now. His looks good on him. Some have to cut theirs shorter when it seems not appropriate for for their work.
    I had hair over my collar when I met Mrs. Jim and rode a motorcycle. Her mother, I'd liked to have read her mind, seemed to like me though. It was a second marriage for me, her first. I worked as an Aerospace Engineer at NASA so it couldn't be too long. No one ever mentioned my hair to me. My roommate's had curls and was well accepted also.
    "Those were the days, my friend." I was also in college working on an advanced degree then with lots of Hippies, girls were in classes barefoot wearing raggedy cutoffs, my crush left her yellow dog at the building stairs with the others. She was sooo smart, we sat together towards the back. In Differential Equations she read her History assignment while I took class notes, she made an "A", I made a "B".
    ..

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    1. He was able to keep it long during his internship with a local newspaper, but I don't think it was a big deal since he did a lot of things either remotely or in a near empty office.

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  11. A delightful mother/son post. So much love there.

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    1. My family is very lucky that we're all pretty fond of each other.

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  12. He's got gorgeous hair! Wow!!!!! Very handsome, I have to say! Great post! Big Hugs Rommy!

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    1. He does! I'm glad he's able to manage it better now.

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  13. I like this different point of view–stating your son's comments and wonderings. Men's long hair never looks as bad as a woman's hair,
    out of shape. Good looking guy!

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  14. I love this reflection - an I had NO IDEA Hair was made into a movie - I've seen a tour of it on stage ... knew it was a Broadway musical and am currently looking for a vintage vinyl 33 of it for my "knew" portable record player... ha. I will have to watch the movie. And your son, if he can sing and dance, would be perfect for this song!

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    1. He actually can sing and dance a bit and enjoyed being in his high school plays.

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  15. Delightfully write for this Sunday morning, Rommy - it prompted many warm memories for me also, as it so clearly has done for others - Thank you...

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  16. Sweet! I turned into my mother too.

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    1. LOL, some things just pass easily to the next generation

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  17. Such an adorable way to bond with each other. I smiled at the image of him in his satin lined hat and you with a sleeping bonnet... :)

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    1. It's funny when we're both up in the morning at the same time :D

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  18. Sons are adorable even if they look at their Moms in horror upon realizing they're turning into us. :)

    P.S. I have a son so I may be biased. :D

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    1. As tall as he is now, I have the image of his toddler-self clear in my head.

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  19. I love the lack of haircuts all the way around. My daughters is down to her waist--loved this!

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    1. Darling Eldest's might get that long eventually!

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  20. Thank you for sharing this. :)

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  21. Love this story. Who wouldn't delight in sharing hair tips with a son. Children struggle when they see mom and dad in them, but most of the time as they age they treasure it.

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    1. There are some commonalities that make me smile too

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